Between the Listening and the Telling

How Stories Can Save Us

Mark Yaconelli is well known and much beloved in rural Oregon and Siskiyou circles for his powerful community storytelling events with The Hearth, based in Southern Oregon. He distills his learnings and experiences and beautifully weaves them with story in his latest book Between the Listening and the Telling. This work explores story as a connector of hearts, people, groups and communities. Many books “tell”, some “show,” and precious few actually lead to transformation. This one does all three. Mark invites vulnerability by being vulnerable, courage by being courageous, tears by revealing heartfelt truths, and laughter by being very funny. Beautiful, inspiring, timely.

206 pages. ©2022.
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Reader Reviews for this Book

MichelleHankes

Review posted February 1, 2023

5

I'm using this with my teams at work as a way to share our messages and and to coach our clients as well.

BPraw88

Review posted January 31, 2023

5

"Between the Listening and the Telling" is the recipe for an antidote to the divisiveness and lonliness are plaguing our families and communities. Like a recipe, it cannot provide the impact we desperately need without someone carrying out the instructions. Mark Yaconelli has not just provided us with an idea. He has years of proof that his approach to healing does exactly that. Healing for individuals. Healing for communities. My biggest hope from his inspirational example is that we are not too late or too apathetic to put it into action. - Brian Prawitz, Roseburg, Oregon

Doranne Long

Review posted January 31, 2023

5

Mark Yaconelli helps us to heal, one shared story at a time. He is a skilled story catcher; guiding us to recognize and tell our own stories. He asks questions that trigger memories. He challenges us to tell our stories, and to listen well as others share. "I discovered that in every town the stories wait, like seeds beneath the concrete ... there is no need to make anything up, no need for fiction. The truth waits to be told, but few know how to catch it. And fewer still know how to tell it."

JonD

Review posted January 28, 2023

5

"Storytelling is being human together. We tell stories to savor the pleasures of living" (66). Thoughtful, engaging, at times challenging even controversial in his perspective taking. The interludes brought me to tears, and the recounting of the Douglas County UCC shooting still touches as nerve. The book is filled with marvelous quotes, I've underlined, dog-eared and tear-stained the pages I will return to often in my role as a youth mentor, pastor, and story-teller.

Settlesm

Review posted January 26, 2023

5

This is a beautiful book about the power of storytelling. I was particularly struck by the value of intentionally sharing positive stories at a time of community crisis. If the positive stories aren't shared then only the negative ones get circulated. When the stories of communities coming together were spread after the Umpqua Community College shootings, that goodness was allowed to push back against the darkness of the negative. Such a valuable lesson. So wonderfully told.

Toby Abraham-Rhine

Review posted January 25, 2023

5

Powerful and peaceful, thought-provoking and challenging, the author acknowledges the painful truths of our current trend as humans to be more plugged in to screens than to the human heart. He has reminded us that we are nothing without meaningful human connections and that our stories need to be shared. This book has given me a new approach to counseling my students as I invite them to tell me a story about their lives.

ChrystalVaughan

Review posted January 25, 2023

5

I wasn't expecting this book to be funny; true, the description mentioned that it was but humor is so subjective in many instances. Not in this one. One of the lines in the book that I truly love is, "Before you do something well, you have to do it badly." There is a lot of heart, and grace, in that sentence and it's so true, as well. I recommend this book for anyone, really, whether you're a gifted storyteller already or just enjoy a good tale now and then. Oh, and if you like to snicker at your desk during lunch; don't snort your coffee is my biggest suggestion in that instance!

jillcyaconelli

Review posted January 19, 2023

5

Okay, full disclosure, I am the author's wife. Just want to say that of Mark's six books, this one is my favorite! I promise you will laugh, cry, and get in touch with a deep sense of shared humanity. Highly recommend :)

Minimalisa

Review posted January 17, 2023

5

I keep coming back to the primary lesson (at least for me) from this book - that stories are at the heart of human connection and now it's more important than ever to create opportunities for connection. I enjoyed how the author was able to weave his own life stories into the narrative and use that as an opportunity to deepen the reader's understanding of how stories ARE our life. I also learned that it's important to examine the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves and the people in we encounter. I would recommend this book to anyone who is wanting and/or working to feel more connected to their community. I appreciate how Mark also underscores the power of listening. You might just be surprised about what you hear and that is the magic of storytelling.

dtague

Review posted January 15, 2023

4

I read this book as a part of book club, and re-kindled my understanding and appreciation of the art of storytelling and how necessary it is to engage in storytelling in order to connect with others. I brought an activity from the book club to a meeting at work, having folks write and share a small story based on some prompts and this is something I am going to continue as it provided an additional way to connect and share similarities - folks are just like me.

tranderson661

Review posted January 14, 2023

5

This book is magical. I received it last week and have been unable to put it down. The truly authentic stories contained in the book really give a sense of belonging and companionship. Very happy I was able to read this book.

garciac113

Review posted January 6, 2023

4

Good information.

Amber

Review posted January 4, 2023

5

Very inspiring. Eye opening and encouraging. Very much enjoyed.

[email protected]

Review posted January 4, 2023

5

Mark Yaconelli's book about the art of storytelling is so inspiring! I'm taking his upcoming workshop in January to start learning about how storytelling fits into my life.

Kerlinks21

Review posted January 4, 2023

5

Well written! Great addition to my reading.

Lovetoread

Review posted January 2, 2023

1

I do not recall receiving this book?

alayha22

Review posted December 28, 2022

5

It's been a long time since I have flown through a book this fast! I couldn't put it down and finished the whole thing in under a week. "Between the Listening and the Telling" contains the best story I have ever read(the Clara chapter). I laughed, I cried, and I felt inspired. The book captures the transformative power of storytelling.

vireogirl

Review posted December 21, 2022

4

The story interludes were my favorite part. Lots of examples of how stories can be healing, interspersed with bits of memoir. The writing was a bit like a thesaurus at times, with an over abundance of clarifying phrases.

cwetzel

Review posted December 18, 2022

5

This is a wonderful book that goes into why sharing stories with each other is so powerful and so important. It is at the same time, it is a book full of touching stories. And they are stories and messages that are worth re-reading, so I'm glad I have the book on my bookshelf to stumble across now & again.

Egankris

Review posted November 25, 2022

5

This one of those books that I read a little then have to put it down to think about what I read. It’s also a book I know I’ll read multiple times!

hilman

Review posted November 22, 2022

4

This book gives a wonderful way to think about how we tell stories and what those stories can do for us. It gives people the space to be vulnerable, to form connections, and to find their way back home again. For all those who love a good story, and for those who feel a little lost in a world where social media and the quick snapshot of a story that doesn't have anything messy in it- this book is for you. Find your way home and tell your truth.

mancuso22

Review posted November 19, 2022

5

An amazing and important book. Full of emotion, wisdom, and humanity.

camillemanger

Review posted November 18, 2022

5

I have been fortunate to go to Ashland and Grants Pass where Hearth events are held. The stories always touch my heart in unexpected ways. Mark Yaconelli’s book was similar to attending the Hearth- I laughed and cried as the stories unfolded and I was reminded how much I yearn for the closeness of others to share/and hear our stories that connect us. Thank you Mark!

RoseRobin

Review posted November 17, 2022

5

This book came to me at just the right time. The org I work at is endeavoring to increase our capacity to tell the stories of those we serve and the work we do and I really appreciate how this book guides that process.

[email protected]

Review posted November 15, 2022

5

In a time where we so need to find a way forward together I found this book to have practical as well as visionary ideas. It has inspired me to tell my story and perhaps more importantly to listen more deeply to the stories of others.

sweety95838

Review posted November 8, 2022

5

very inspiring helped me get motivated

Bellinson

Review posted November 8, 2022

5

I learned so much learning about listening, true listening, builds connection and empathy. An easy important read and lesson in community building.

kjoy4433

Review posted November 8, 2022

5

Over the past 10 years I have helped my father write his memoirs (he passed away in 2107 at age 97) and just last year wrote a biography of my mom, who died in 2005, and I spent 25 years working as a librarian in elementary schools, so I know something about storytelling. What sets this book apart is the focus on listening. The gift of attention is priceless, children should be hearing family stories from an early age, and they also deserve to be heard. The author's childhood was not one in which he felt listened too--far from it. So he has devoted his life to facilitating and teaching listening to all sorts of people: teachers, marginalized individuals, people who are grieving and those who have endured trauma and despair. The power of storytelling comes up again and again, with examples of how the storytellers and the listeners benefit; in fact, in the end we all do because this practice will improve communities My copy of this book is marked up throughout because there are so many pearls of wisdom and well-thought-out advice. I expect to return to it again and again.

Danellmb

Review posted October 31, 2022

5

Great book to read and share with others

Dolly Marshall

Review posted October 28, 2022

5

This book on storytelling is a balm to our current culture of divisiveness, separation, and exclusion. Author Mark Yaconelli shows us how storytelling will not only open our ears to listen to others' stories (or side of the story) but also how, in so doing, we open our hearts to understanding and compassion.

Jxcatto

Review posted October 23, 2022

5

Such a pleasure to read! An incredibly well written book that had me in tears of laughter and empathy throughout. The author’s narrative journey between the art of storytelling and the stories themselves was a seamless journey of magical delight.

Rsanford

Review posted October 18, 2022

5

"Between the Listening and the Telling How Stories Can Save Us." I was drawn to this book because the title means something to me. I already embraced his message--that telling our stories and listening to the stories of others brings healing both personally and in community. Then I began reading and was immediately immersed in the life affirming words of Mark Yaconelli. Reading the book was a deeply beautiful and emotional experience. Mark is not just a skilled listener, he is a master storyteller. Not surprisingly, I came away longing to tell my story and to listen better and more often to the stories of others. Read this book for yourself, read it for others. Maybe, through our listening and telling, we each can bring a little more healing into our broken worlds.

Larry Stokes

Review posted October 6, 2022

5

This book was full of wisdom gems. I’m the minister at Unity of Roseburg, I based a sermon last month on this book. The story about how Alain de Botton, a writer, stationed himself for eight hours in a terminal of Heathrow, the busy London airport to watch the faces of all who existed the plane was instructive. Who would have guessed that people would be looking for someone to meet them when they knew there would be no one. How the stories that Dorthy tells her granddaughter about the cottage they lived in imbued her with a personal identity, and connection to the past, to her relatives, the land, and her own origin made me think about my own stories and how they have shaped my sense of identity. The book taught me that speaking our stories can liberate us individually and, collectively, at times transforming residents into neighbors, enemies into friends, and towns into communities. On an even deeper level, we are relational beings. We need each other in order to become ourselves. The whole book can be summed up with the word, Hiraeth [hee-rrrife], a Welsh word which refers to a special kind of longing. A longing for a place or time that the soul once knew. What is that place or time? What is hiraeth? The door of your heart being open – first to yourself and then to all the world. What do you see? Community. And beyond that? The larger space from which thoughts and stories arise. Your true self.

Sebastian

Review posted September 25, 2022

5

This is an interesting read on the power of story to effect transformative changes in both individuals and communities. The thematic approach is presented in a creative blend of information, instruction, communication theory, and, of course, stories. Worthy of a reader's time.

Lowell Greathouse

Review posted September 16, 2022

5

Mark Yaconelli's book Between the Listening and the Telling reminds us of just how central stories are to our personal and collective well-being. Part of the magic comes from the telling and the inevitable remembering that is involved in storytelling, and part of it comes about because the community is broadened and deepened by the sharing of stories. Yaconelli reminds us that without stories, we will simply dry up spiritually. Early on, he says, "Every human being longs for a good question and a listening ear," and then he provides the reader with a number of examples of why this is so. In these difficult and divisive times, we need each other and the stories that give meaning to our lives in order to heal, become more civil and understanding, and learn how to listen once again. I found Between the Listening and the Telling to be a very helpful aid in how to survive these times. I'd highly recommend this book to others. It is a balm for the soul and Yaconelli is an able, experienced guide. Through stories we may yet make our way back to kindness and understanding, but as Yaconelli says, "we have to move at soul speeds" if we want to do this.

stokesfolks

Review posted September 15, 2022

5

There are some really nice stories in this book. My husband used some of them in a speech he wrote.

swilliams_87

Review posted September 7, 2022

5

I did not know what to expect from this book and it was very heartfelt and will be one that I will be recommending quite frequently to others. It reminded me that we are definately gifting someone so significant when we lend our ears and join them in their stories.. that we are not what we appear to be at surface but each of us carries a story that is asking to be heard. This is hands down one of my newest fav to read books to suggest to others.

veronicamsw

Review posted September 2, 2022

5

This book is a wonderful reminder of the power of storytelling as a way of not only connecting with one another, but a catalyst for healing. As a therapist, I highly recommend writing as a mechanism for promoting healing and growth. The process of being seen by sharing our experiences needs to be reconsidered as an effective tool in the classroom for learning and promoting of social and coping skills.

ashleyjohnsonbend

Review posted August 29, 2022

5

simply, a powerful message, powerful for our time right now.

econdev

Review posted August 29, 2022

5

Another great addition to the lending library. This book brings the humanitarian perspective to the social strains of negotiating understanding.

eastman74

Review posted August 28, 2022

5

Mark Yaconelli's book "Between the Listening and the Telling: How Stories Can Save Us" guides us away from noise and hear truth.

KateB

Review posted August 27, 2022

5

Having recently read several books on storytelling, including The Moth’s How to Tell a Story and Gareth Higgen’s How Not to be Afraid, I wondered why spend time reading another on the topic. Anne Lamott’s forward drew me in. The author’s having a diploma in spiritual direction from San Francisco Theological Seminary and experience with Austin Presbyterian Theological Seminary intrigued me. While his points are in communion with other authors, his experiences and stories are uniquely from his own life experience and listening to others tell their stories. I loved this book & value the author’s work! It’s well written, engaging, and moved me over & over again.