Building Resilience in Children and Teens

Giving Kids Roots and Wings

This book, from a bestselling author and pediatrician, offers coping strategies to help children and teens deal with stress due to academic pressure, high achievement standards, media messages, peer pressure and family tension. Recommendations guide parents to help kids (18 months to 18 years) build competence, confidence, connection, character, contribution, coping and control — all needed to bounce back from life's challenges.

330 pages. ©2014.
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Reader Reviews for this Book

Haybird13

Review posted September 10, 2020

5

Love this book! Such a great book!

mzamarripa

Review posted September 4, 2020

4

Very useful and a great eye opener on how to handle situations that arise with teens. I will keep this handy and available to share with anybody that will enjoy it as much as I did.

Merylsan

Review posted August 31, 2020

5

I appreciate the wholistic approach this book offers; including creativity, nutrition, media literacy and family rituals.There are concrete stategies as well, such as coping stratgeis and behavior change dos and don'ts and flow charts. There helpful video links as well. I appreciate that this book offers community based strategies for building resilience, knowing that it cannpt be up to parents and educators alone to build resilience.

4price

Review posted August 31, 2020

4

Thanks for this book. It’s helpful in understanding kids. I recommend The Deepest Well- it’s another great resource.

AmyRoseWoot

Review posted August 17, 2020

5

Such an important book especially for our community

Oroianj

Review posted July 28, 2020

5

Interesting read

Jaki Oroian

Review posted July 28, 2020

3

Great book thank you

Jnicholson411

Review posted July 27, 2020

5

Excellent understanding and tools to promote resilience skills in children and adolescents. Easy-to-understand examples from real life and applications for parents, teachers, and clinicians.

Lelahbeckerle

Review posted July 23, 2020

4

A great fact about this book is it can reach a wide spectrum of individuals. No need to be a parent to glean excellent tools for life. A teacher, socail worker, youth pastor, a neighbor, any of these roles could benefit from reading this book. I have an eleven and seventeen year-old and am a single mother. Challenges arise all the time with a preteen and a teenager in the home, yet this book has offered some really great incite on fresh ideas on how to move forward in healthier ways for both me as a parent and for my children.

seadams1990

Review posted July 20, 2020

5

I really enjoyed this book. The first thing that caught my eye was that it was written by a pediatrician and is supported by the American Academy of Pediatrics. I enjoyed it more and more as I read it because I felt that it gives hope in being able to teach resilience in children and talks about a lot of different factors that impact resilience. But I also really appreciated that it gives step-by-step instructions on how to help change behavior but also how to maintain that learned resilience. As a marriage and family therapist, I also really valued that this book talks about self care not being selfish! And how parents are role models for modeling how to manage situations and in order to support their own resilience, they have to take care of themselves! I talk about these concepts in my own practice and I really enjoyed reading this book as I learned things that I want to add to my work with children and families.

Diane Pancake

Review posted July 16, 2020

5

The book is easy to read and offers many suggestions on how to help children, teenagers build their Resilience. I also liked the tips for parents and teachers to put into their "tool box" and use to help the children and teenagers in our lives. It also offers videos to watch. I think it also made me think on how to improve my life and in this way help others as well. I would recommend this book to anyone that has children or teenagers in their life.

aandersen413

Review posted July 9, 2020

4

I think this is a really good book to have on your bookshelf. It has some good advice for young children, but I feel this book is mostly targeted towards teen/preteen issues. It's something you can refer to as the years go by, but I would still supplement it with other age-specific books, because it doesn't go in depth on parenting young children.

Sbailey711

Review posted July 1, 2020

5

Great advice. We MUST create resilient adults to ensure our future!

Caseworker

Review posted June 30, 2020

4

Dr. Ginsburg does what most author's strive to do. He translates a critical and complex concept into everyday language that is both informative and accessible. Building resilience in children and Teens is a must read for parents and practitioners who care about future generations.

Danafmonroe

Review posted June 26, 2020

5

This book is layout great. It is clear and to the point. I really appreciate how the author walks you through the steps and gives you real world examples for application.

Leannak

Review posted June 10, 2020

5

Excellent! Building resilience in kids is utterly important, especially given our current state off affairs in today’s world. Coupled with children who are at risk and who have experienced trauma, thus was a great read and a fabulous resource!!

Kowen84

Review posted June 2, 2020

4

With having a teen my self, it was good insight into allowing them to grow. Giving good strategies and research to help me help my child thrive and a achieve happiness and I enjoy the online research and I think it will help teach also are younger children.

akotsovos

Review posted May 21, 2020

4

Incredibly helpful book both in my personal life as a parent and my professional work with JJC involved youth.

Danielle

Review posted May 19, 2020

4

A wonderful resource to a trauma informed library.

holtman

Review posted May 15, 2020

5

Great information. Dr. Kenneth R. Ginsberg makes things clear and simple. Also a great speaker if you ever get the chance to hear him

Lacey Henneke

Review posted May 14, 2020

5

This book was a great help for me during the completion of my MSW.

HollyRyan

Review posted May 12, 2020

4

Great book about helping develop young people. If you work with youth, read this book!

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Review posted April 30, 2020

3

I found this book an "easy to read"...

crhughes72

Review posted April 22, 2020

5

This was an amazing book!!! I have 3 boys, ages 27,22and 9 so the teen years going into wings was the enticer of this book.

inaleahmack

Review posted April 20, 2020

4

My favorite section was Part 5 on Control. Especially chapter 33, it was a very good reminder that kids need both freedom and boundaries to grow, mature and learn to make good/safe decisions. The bonus piece is that is also improves our communication with youth and diminishes triangulation.

jennynunn

Review posted April 16, 2020

5

This book was exactly what I needed. My 13 year old has juvenile polyarticular rheumatoid arthritis and after all the stress and trauma of what she has gone through she has really needed my help in fostering resilience. This book gave me some great insight and ideas on how to communicate, discipline and love my daughter and all my children even through the hard stuff.

srollings-young

Review posted March 30, 2020

5

I love this book it was easy to read and had examples that just about anyone can relate to. I would recommend this book to anyone with teens. Great book.

jailittle

Review posted February 29, 2020

5

This book gives a lot of great ideas. Good for anyone with teens.

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Review posted February 27, 2020

4

An excellent reference book with ideas for clinicians working with teens. I will keep this one on my shelf.

AndreaBaugh

Review posted February 17, 2020

3

Decent read. A lot of personal stories so it seems less data research based. There are some good nuggets of information.

DonnaS

Review posted February 15, 2020

5

Absolutely LOVE this book! The author uses conversational English, a gift rarely seen. His examples are ones anyone is going through currently. He offers possibilities that are easy to use and follow. He explains the 'why' behind our thoughts, actions, and reactions. The videos and checklists supplement the reading to a 't'.

Firechild94

Review posted January 27, 2020

5

This book is fantastic. It gives great strategies for raising children. I do wish it was more focused on young children but it's helpful anyway. I would recommend this book to anyone with kids or going into the childcare profession.

annarickards

Review posted January 24, 2020

5

Dr. Kenneth Ginsburg's book "Building Resilience in Children and Teens: Giving Kids Roots and Wings" is a must-read for any educator passionate about enhancing the lives of their students. Dr. Ginsburg presents tangible ways to: * bolster students' self-esteem * build confidence in students * learn the art of truly listening to students * teach grit * be compassionate . . . and the list goes on. This book serves as an excellent reminder that we, as educators, have the capacity to truly influence each student's life in a healthy, positive way, while also teaching them the skills they need to be successful both at school and in the world.

Jhirte

Review posted January 23, 2020

5

This book was an excellent read. I highly recommend diving in and deep, then reflecting how you feel paragraph to paragraph. Consider thinking about your own childhood and how to incorporate it with those you serve.

Toby Abraham-Rhine

Review posted January 18, 2020

5

Absolute must read for every parent, teacher, counselor, director or anyone who works with children. Avoid the pitfalls of child rearing and interactions that have created a generation of potential entitlement and fear of failure in many children. For such a small publication, it packs a punch and does not just present doom and gloom theories, but instead gives every adult the practical tools needed to help a child build resilience.

HeatherK2485

Review posted January 9, 2020

5

This book had been so essential in my role as a family educator. Very insightful!!

Melissa Mesa

Review posted January 9, 2020

5

Enjoyed reading this book as a parent and wished I would have read it when my oldest was a younger. Great advice on ways to communicate with children, keeping them safe while also fostering confidence in your child.

jlbartkus

Review posted January 2, 2020

4

It was well written and an easy read. Good information. The only issue I had was that I was not able to access the video's on the website.

Nreerslev

Review posted December 31, 2019

5

Interesting perspective reading as a new parent. Great things to bring more awareness for parenting.

Asisson16

Review posted December 18, 2019

5

This book was extremely helpful for me as I study the ACE's. Its super friendly to thumb through from section to section as needed. It has so much good content in it. I valued the authors point of view as well. This book helped me as a mother and a teacher.

rileyrstratton

Review posted December 5, 2019

4

This is a great resource for anyone with children and/or teens- but also anyone who works with children and teens. It offers great perspective on how to help them form into outstanding, RESILIENT young humans. Recommend!

Mhayner

Review posted December 2, 2019

5

It was an amazing book, lent it out to a volunteer through my program!

mcalvert

Review posted November 11, 2019

5

Loved it! So insightful and helpful to my work with students dealing with the negative impacts of childhood trauma.

letsbeachit

Review posted November 11, 2019

5

Great book! Learn to help others "bounce back" and share building coping skills.

Hilary Barfield

Review posted November 5, 2019

5

Amazing book great information

Emiliya King

Review posted November 4, 2019

5

My niece loves this book!

dianagrindea

Review posted November 1, 2019

5

Valuable book on building resilience in children and teens. Easy read w/ tons of tangible ideas to implement. Covers fundamental topics like how to effectively communicate and create healthy boundaries, and more current issues like media (screen time) smarts. I'm excited to use some of the role plays w/ the students I support as an educator, as well as my daughter as she develops.

garciac113

Review posted October 25, 2019

4

Excellent read. Use it for work!

Shaworth

Review posted October 20, 2019

5

Building Resilience in children and teens information will help greatly at school with my students.

Coubri

Review posted October 17, 2019

5

I am deeply enjoying this well-organized and thoughtful amalgamation of best practices. It is easy to read, approachable and sensible, but also inspiring and thought provoking. There are some absolute gems and also a lot of common sense put into clear context, which serves as a good reminder. Highly recommended.

toniwallisa

Review posted October 16, 2019

5

This book provides a good review of, not only what resilience is, but how to promote it within today's youth. I appreciate that the book goes back to early infancy and how this changes to promote people to be more resilient. This grows throughout the entire book. From handling it through various strategies and other coping mechanisms, including taking care of yourself.

White24

Review posted October 11, 2019

5

This books is just an overall amazing for just about everyone; parents, teachers, social workers, basically anyone who is interacting with children at all. It has a really good balance of teaching children how to gain self confidence while also keeping them safe. It seems like a lot of common sense and easy concepts but everything in this book is SO useful and it has a lot of topics that are often completely overlooked when teaching children.

swalton

Review posted October 10, 2019

5

This book is a great resource! I would recommend it to any one working directly or indirectly with children.

Janice I Woody

Review posted October 5, 2019

5

Enjoyed learning how to support my son and things I can do as a parent

Tsecrest

Review posted September 24, 2019

4

This book is amazing. this book has really helped me to understand how to help with peer pressure, academic pressure, family issues and much more.

jlhendren

Review posted September 20, 2019

4

I'm really getting good information about what it takes on my part to help give children the tools for building the resilience mindset going forward in life!

FeFiFoFanaAna

Review posted September 9, 2019

3

This book is a must read for anyone who works with children especially students at the elementary level because as educators we are able give the students the support and tools they need to be successful in life. Of course there will be bumps on the road but we have to at least try. This book gives you an insight on how to navigate those obstacles and allows us to try and understand the hardships that others go through.

nikkimoo2

Review posted August 29, 2019

3

This books is titled "Building Resilience in Children and Teens," but the primary focus is on adolescence rather than toddlers and elementary aged children. Also, I found myself sometimes overwhlemed with the amount of information and not sure how exactly to apply it. While the later part on coping was helpful, you have to wade through 200 pages of other information first.

AleeOrtega

Review posted August 12, 2019

4

This book was practical and an captivating read.

mharner0514

Review posted August 2, 2019

4

Amazing resource

Khazilla

Review posted August 1, 2019

4

A good book for parents, professionals and others who care about young people. The 7 C's framework is easily accessible and the resources (especially videos) are great for quick learning. Lots of easily digestible segments for specific circumstances (i.e. Connection in Military Families).

stoutbr

Review posted July 30, 2019

4

This book is filled with ideas for building resilience in kids. So many ideas are small and nuanced. Slight ways we can shift our language, time, or interactions with kids. It’s not a hard read, but also not quick due to all the content.

Brownju

Review posted July 16, 2019

5

Every parent and teacher should read this book. It gives insight into the world of students who need to fly. The author shared best practices to help every community.

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Review posted June 20, 2019

4

I enjoyed this book. It brought much awareness on Resiliency and childhood trauma.

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Review posted June 19, 2019

5

This book is empowering for the reader in helping young people to reframe their adverse experiences into sources of growth and strength.

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Review posted June 12, 2019

4

Great "how to" advice. A must read for anyone in a helping profession.

Frontier CASA

Review posted June 6, 2019

5

I was looking for a book on resilience to share with our Court Appointed Special Advocates and I found it. This is one of the best I have read. I have also recommended it to two parents for their use.

krystlemoxley

Review posted May 23, 2019

4

I enjoyed the age spectrum in this book and specifically appreciated that the author tackled problems congruent with our age of technology and how this has impacted our children. It was help as a parent who has kids who range in ages from 4 to 17.

jlwatson

Review posted May 18, 2019

5

Excellent book for anyone with kids, teaching kids, or working with kids in any way. This book has very useful, easy to use examples. Highly recommend!

csumerlin17

Review posted May 15, 2019

5

This book is packed with information, strategies, and insights that every parent or adult who works with children should know. Each chapter and section gets down to the core of how to help children grow socially and emotionally. The book is a toolbox that should be revisited often.

Patricia Jarrett

Review posted May 8, 2019

5

This is an excellent book! Is helping me personally and professionally.

Almaaguayo

Review posted May 3, 2019

5

I loved this book, it has helped out so much thank you.

kyeann196

Review posted April 30, 2019

5

This book is a must have for any parent wishing for a guidebook to happy kids in today's chaotic world. Today's youth are faced with many challenges that are new to their generation and this helps navigate through child-rearing to raise successful adults.

watsonka

Review posted April 19, 2019

3

Useful and good information. Parts are common sense, parts are dry, but worth reading.

aileahd

Review posted April 15, 2019

5

Very down to earth, science based recommendations on how to raise kids with respect and authenticity. As an avid reader in this genre I didn't see anything outstanding and new, rather a well-researched summary of many solid ideas. I love that there are plentiful references for scientific studies and published journal articles backing up the theories presented in the book. A wonderful read, highly recommend.

Loverfrombeyond

Review posted April 15, 2019

4

The book is very well set up, with picture breakdowns, clear sections, and situations to understand what the section is talking about at points. Very well written.

BrandiS

Review posted April 14, 2019

5

This book was well written and I felt there was no judgement and full of practical information.

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Review posted April 7, 2019

4

This book is great for parents and caregivers. It's an easy read, full of plenty of useful information.

RobMWright

Review posted April 3, 2019

4

I teach in a school that serves four of the six poorest zip codes in the state and many of my students are dealing with situations that completely overwhelm them. I found much in "Building Resilience in Children and Teens: Giving Kids Roots and Wings" that fit in with ACES training and programs that my school has instituted to work with, support and work with our student population. It is overwhelming, especially when you don't have one of the most important needs to be successful, time. It takes time to build resilience and when one is dealing with a student population that has a large migratory population and/or absentee rate, it makes the work all the more difficult. I mention this because time is the commodity that is the hardest to carve out as a teacher. Juggling the needs of multiple students (high school) and the requirements of the job is the hardest to keep track of and maintaining forward momentum. I lead off with this because, it has been the hardest part of trying to implement with my students. There is a lot of positive and good information in this book, so much that it can seem overwhelming. You find yourself wondering where to start. What strategies will be the ones to start to build the foundation of resilience on. How to frame the strategies in a way that facilitates buy in by the students. I am happy that I read this work, it did answer some questions I had and it has helped me to fine tune and tweak some of the strategies that I have begun to use with my students with the most need.

PuellaRav

Review posted March 30, 2019

4

Lots of helpful, insightful information. I’m passing the book along to my son & daughter in law. Their youngest is 13, and has had problems this year with bullying and anxiety issues. The chapter on confidence is definitely a place for them to start working together. I’m hoping that the entire family works through the book together.

mandy.stanley

Review posted March 18, 2019

5

A must read for parents and educators

KBurnham

Review posted March 18, 2019

5

This was a lovely book to read. I especially the section where it stated, "Young People Who Don't Live Up to THeir Potential Aren't Necessarily Lazy."

Kari

Review posted March 17, 2019

5

This book was a great resource for understanding the effects of stress on kids and for ideas to help children develop grit, residence and a positive self esteem!!

retiredtom

Review posted March 16, 2019

4

Approaches raising children with love and no games. Asks parents to strive to be adults (not always perfectly possible) and to help children, and teens, grow -- even when suffering from severe stress -- incrementally to be more responsible. There is much wisdom in the book but it might not be easily understood or clear to some given its slightly academic style. The use of stories helps, and the referral to videos available on-line helps as well. Part 7 deals with the role of communities in helping teens. I think this is why the Ford Institute Leadership Program engaged youth as young as 13, as part of an effort to help young people grow into adulthood.

LelaniaKetola

Review posted March 13, 2019

5

Excellent resource. A must read for any parent, educator, coach or anyone working with children.

Marshall3rd

Review posted March 13, 2019

3

Great overview and insights to resilience. More family oriented, but can be related to education/classroom. Loved the 7 C's!

Krystamilton

Review posted March 12, 2019

5

I like the layout of the book. Really helpful book for parenting.

mdowell

Review posted March 11, 2019

4

This book was very well written and easily one of the better resilience building for children and teens. I found the online videos that were included with this book a bonus.

dougsannes

Review posted March 1, 2019

3

Solid book.

tahutton

Review posted February 20, 2019

5

THIS IS A MUST READ! I ordered this book out of curiosity and ended up reading this in one night. This book contains information you don't particularly think about on a day to day basis, but really need to take a step back and reevaluate. A must read for all parents!

CASAOFDOUGLASCOUNTY

Review posted February 15, 2019

2

This book is a great resource for anyone who has children or works with them. I am using the book to help me understand what else can be done for youth in foster care. At the end of the book, the author offers a list of questions we can use to help develop the 7 C's in youth: Competence, Confidence, Connection, Character, Contribution, Coping and Control. It is helping me understand how to engage in relationships that build these assets in not only the children I serve, but my own grandchildren. After I finish using the book for research, I'm giving it to my daughter!