Building Resilience in Children and Teens

Giving Kids Roots and Wings

This book, from a bestselling author and pediatrician, offers coping strategies to help children and teens deal with stress due to academic pressure, high achievement standards, media messages, peer pressure and family tension. Recommendations guide parents to help kids (18 months to 18 years) build competence, confidence, connection, character, contribution, coping and control — all needed to bounce back from life's challenges.

330 pages. ©2014.
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Reader Reviews for this Book


Review posted February 28, 2023


Building Resilience in Children and Teens is an informative and helpful narrative for families with young and aging children. The majority of my reading related to parenting has been in regards to early childhood - birth to eight. It was interesting to read a perspective specifically related to parenting teens. My favorite reminder from this book is that the work parents and educators do is aimed at creating happy, healthy, and productive adults. Society often fails to recognize the long term impacts of how we parent and interact with young children. It is always valuable when a book, article, or other publication reminds society of the long term impact that adolescent experiences have.


Review posted February 26, 2023


Loved this book! I too think it is so important to build resilient kids.


Review posted February 19, 2023


Super excited to implement some of these ideas!!! Very enjoyable read!


Review posted February 14, 2023


Good book. Very informative.


Review posted February 12, 2023


This book brought up a lot of my childhood and how I was raised some good and bad. I really want to brake cycles. This book kept me engaged and I bookmarked many pages to reference. This topic is so important


Review posted February 4, 2023


This book contains lots of information, advice and suggestions for how to parent, with a slant toward teenagers.


Review posted January 31, 2023


I felt I gained a lot of knowledge through this book as someone who works with children. It was very easy to comprehend and I am eager to apply my learning.


Review posted December 31, 2022


This book has a lot of useful information for parents who are trying to navigate raising a child/teenager in today's world.


Review posted December 26, 2022


A must have in any social worker’s library

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Review posted November 28, 2022


Building Resilience in Children and Teens was an excellent book with an overall message of how to help children develop into healthy, happy, successful adults. It was easy to read but also presented research and clinical and personal examples of the strategies in place. Well done and worth the read.


Review posted November 25, 2022


Great book, helpful when working with your own kids or students.

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Review posted October 26, 2022


this book is an excellent resource for any parent that is raising children into their teenage years. It talks about many of the stressors teenagers face to include trauma and toxic stress.


Review posted October 25, 2022


This book is excellent, it has helped me a lot to communicate with my children. The language used in the book is easy to understand. I recommend it to all parents and people who work with children.


Review posted October 12, 2022


Great information that I can implement in life


Review posted October 3, 2022


This is a good book for parents or those who are thinking of becoming parents. I was hoping for more ideas to impliment in a classroom, but it still has some great advice to give to parents who are struggling with their kid.


Review posted September 30, 2022


This book is full of actionable steps, as well as the explanations behind them. I look forward to improving my parenting skills so that my children will benefit.


Review posted August 5, 2022


Excellent book on helping children and teen become resilient. Especially right now in time of the pandemic it has been very helpful.

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Review posted July 7, 2022


All parents should read this!


Review posted June 21, 2022


We all want the best for our children. This book has given me a plan for how to listen, interpret and guide my children. It gives us tools to raise our kids in a loving way that prepares them for life's challenges and helps them reach their potential while feeling safe and loved.


Review posted May 6, 2022


I love how this book is formatted. Really easy for professional use, can to lend to parents!


Review posted May 2, 2022


I enjoyed this book. This book helps you with different advice depending on the child's age. It also allows you to open conversations about resiliency safely and respectfully. The author provides readers with easy techniques that can help with life challenges for our children and youth.


Review posted March 29, 2022


Anything to help the kids, much needed resources and activities.


Review posted March 19, 2022


Books like this one written by Kenneth Gingsburg need to be in the hands of all who work with children and teens. Not just educators , but youth workers and parents as well.

Tammy Ann Pierce

Review posted March 2, 2022


This is a great book and perfect timing with my Triple P Teen parent training. The examples of just a shift in language - how you say something makes all the difference in how the message, implied or not, is received. Also, I really appreciate the constant reference to the parent's behavior. Thanks for adding this to the list!


Review posted February 15, 2022


This book was informational. We used it in a study group at work, and it spurred some educational conversations.


Review posted February 12, 2022


There are a lot of gems in this book that are practical and useful parenting tips. Thank you!


Review posted February 11, 2022


Great Book

Crimson Princess

Review posted February 7, 2022


Was a good informational book


Review posted February 2, 2022


Informative and helpful.

Forever learning

Review posted January 9, 2022


On my third round of raising a teenager, I found this book incredible. I wish I would have had it for the first two children.


Review posted January 7, 2022


This is a constructive and informative book for parents, teachers, and mental health practitioners who work with children/adolescents.


Review posted January 5, 2022


It is important to know how and have the tools to help build Resilience in Children. Especially moving Into the teen years, the anxiety and pressures that are present in daily life as a child is growing and learning. This book has alot of great information to help a parent during this time.


Review posted January 5, 2022


Did this as a book club with my co-workers and it was VERY informative, they enjoyed it a lot and we learned a lot from it. Thank You


Review posted December 27, 2021


Kinda dry. Okay info though

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Review posted December 7, 2021


Well written textbook citing most of the newest science around raising children/adolescents. With the pandemic causing so much stress in families and children's lives I'm sure that there will be even more studies. Many of the solutions given to raise resilient, happy children really depend upon the family/adult situation which now is very much in flux. So a great resource book for parenting but maybe already becoming a bit passe.


Review posted December 2, 2021


Wonderful book that gave me insight for my personal and professional life with kids.

Racheal Atnip

Review posted October 15, 2021


Great read- Really liked reading this with my spouse.


Review posted October 12, 2021


Very good book! With great information, just what I needed as my oldest is 14 and boy has it been tough!


Review posted September 6, 2021


Great book for educators and counselors


Review posted August 31, 2021


This book was a great resource for learning how to connect with words to your kids or kids in general. My favorite part was The Language of Resilience. So true how you say one thing that can come across way different if you just change the wording to be supportive.


Review posted August 25, 2021


A great resource for anyone who works with or is raising children. Some wonderful perspectives and advice.


Review posted August 6, 2021


What a necessary skill for people of all ages, but especially young people these days. I’m grateful for this book.

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Review posted July 31, 2021


Resilience is Jefferson County Oregon main objective leading to better prevention and treatment options available today. As a mother. very helpful. Especially the second chapter. parenting the 30 year old child.


Review posted June 28, 2021


This is a great book to read as a parent and for those who work with children and teens. As a parent reading this book, I want my kids to grow up to be successful, productive members of society, and kind. I want them to be great, make mistakes and learn from them. This book provides the guidance to build resilience in kids for them to learn to overcome obstacles and come out stronger on the other side. I would definitely recommend this book to others.


Review posted June 18, 2021


I am not fully through the book yet but so far I love it! Data driven but incredibly thoughtful.


Review posted June 18, 2021


This is a helpful guide and support for those providing care to youth.


Review posted June 9, 2021


This book was great for me to read as a high school teacher. I spent time thinking about my own interactions with my students and how to strengthen them as they progress into adulthood, while reading this book. It was also great as a mother of three, to think about and reflect on what I am doing with my own children to build their resilience. Some of the ideas from the book I will use in my classroom like the ladders when it comes to thinking about goals and what are the barriers to achieving it versus what can we do to reach them. I am going to encourage others to read this book especially those who interact with young people.


Review posted May 31, 2021


This book was terrific for both parents and professionals. There is a lot of solid advice for inspiring kids. I think that it put a lot of my instincts into words. I was really inspired by the message. I feel like my work with kids will be stronger after reading this book .


Review posted May 28, 2021


very good book with lots of information

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Review posted May 25, 2021


Just did a skim through and like the information. Can’t wait to dive in more in depth and share with parents.


Review posted May 21, 2021


I loved this book, and it was a great choice of a read during the pandemic. Children are facing real world adversity right now and they need help from adult role models to understand how to best cope with that adversity. This book overs practical, hands-on advice for parents and mentors alike to help kids and teens navigate difficult waters.


Review posted April 28, 2021


As a school nurse I was very motivated to read this book. Resilience is something we want to build into our kids. We see so many who are struggling and have very difficult home lives. These kids can survive and thrive with encouragement, love, and someone who believes in them. I want to be that kind of encourager.


Review posted April 20, 2021


This is a surprisingly easy read in that it held my attention and was not dry. I had to remember to have a pencil nearby for underlining and writing in the margins. I have many take-always and will be working on those “7 C’s.”


Review posted April 14, 2021


I appreciated the way the book was broken into smaller, more digestible sections allowing for reflection and appreciation on how the work could be actualized. Easy to read. I found myself jumping around in the chapters looking for specific information on students I am currently working with....nice resource filled with relevant, in-the-moment strategies as well as intentional things to do along the way to plant the seeds and watch them grow and flourish.

Lindsey Swan

Review posted April 13, 2021


I was surprised at how readable this book was. It has really practical ways of applying the information. I learned a lot.


Review posted April 7, 2021


This book was awesome in describing steps to help kids build resilience. It seemed to focus a lot on teenagers specifically, but did address younger children. I found the 7 C's especially helpful. Since I have teen step children about to join our home I was encouraged in how to make those interactions as positive as possible, and how to really focus on being strength based.


Review posted March 31, 2021


A great parenting book that helps you think about the different qualities that we need to instill in our kids. How to raise kids to be resilient so they are ready to handle being adults and find healthy coping strategies for dealing with stress.


Review posted March 10, 2021


I found the book to be very helpful and inspiring.


Review posted February 26, 2021


This is a great resource for parents and educators wanting to learn more about what helps build resilience in our kids. Highly recommend!


Review posted February 24, 2021


This book was extremely beneficial for our family and those kiddos we are fostering. Especially with the current state of our world and the pandemic, it has provided helpful insight and clarity to a muddy world. I encourage those involved in children's lives in some way to read this book and gain the sense of encouragement and support that you may be needing.


Review posted February 13, 2021


Wonderful book for Parents and Clinicians. Helpful guide that provides insight and education related resilience in young people.


Review posted January 25, 2021


Dr. Ginsburg's message is one for all parents and educators. He has practical tools for loving communication broken down to use with children at all age levels. It is so important to teach resiliency and he gives the techniques that do just that. This is a very important book. Highly recommended.


Review posted January 20, 2021


Must have for anyone working with children and families.


Review posted January 18, 2021


A great resource to “raise adults”. I have told my kids many times that my job is to teach them skills to allow them be strong adults. This book is a great read for this process.


Review posted January 5, 2021


Every parent should read this book! It gives amazing advice for caregivers to follow with both children and teenagers. I wish I would've been able to read it sooner! It's a good resource to keep coming back to


Review posted January 1, 2021


Overall, this was a great read! I am a counseling intern and work primarily with adolescents. I appreciated the way that this book was accessible for both professionals (counselors, educators, etc.) and parents/caregivers. It provided practical tools, techniques, and language for supporting our kiddos. It helps us help young people prepare for and overcome life's challenges. Would definitely recommend.


Review posted December 16, 2020


Amazing read, I highly recommend it for anyone in social services and families working with troubled youth.


Review posted December 14, 2020


Gave as a gift


Review posted December 3, 2020


Thinking about having my own children, it is overwhelming to think about the world they are coming into. This year has shown us how quickly things can change. I want to use these principles in my parenting.


Review posted November 15, 2020


This book hold great tips and reasonable doable suggestions to implement with your children


Review posted November 7, 2020


great info and great book- thank you so much


Review posted October 19, 2020


this is a great book to read to help learn ways to help youth to grow and be able to handle hard situations in life.

onalee Mansor

Review posted October 8, 2020


This book selection is one of the best parenting books I have read. I recommend it to parents, and anyone working with children or parents. It has an especially helpful section with video resources that can be used when working with parents. Counselors, teachers, coaches, parent educators would benefit from the concepts shared in this book.

shannon lipscomb

Review posted October 7, 2020


Dr. Ginsberg provides parents with important ideas and questions to help us connect with our kids in ways that help them nurture resilience. I found it to be a good connection between the science of resilience and the application to every day life, but at times as a parent myself I wanted more depth in terms of strategies to add to the questions that Dr. Ginsberg invites us to consider.


Review posted September 25, 2020


This book has so much useful information in it. I like that there are educational videos to go with different parts of the book. I will definitely be referring this book to coworkers.


Review posted September 10, 2020


Love this book! Such a great book!


Review posted September 4, 2020


Very useful and a great eye opener on how to handle situations that arise with teens. I will keep this handy and available to share with anybody that will enjoy it as much as I did.


Review posted August 31, 2020


I appreciate the wholistic approach this book offers; including creativity, nutrition, media literacy and family rituals.There are concrete stategies as well, such as coping stratgeis and behavior change dos and don'ts and flow charts. There helpful video links as well. I appreciate that this book offers community based strategies for building resilience, knowing that it cannpt be up to parents and educators alone to build resilience.


Review posted August 31, 2020


Thanks for this book. It’s helpful in understanding kids. I recommend The Deepest Well- it’s another great resource.


Review posted August 17, 2020


Such an important book especially for our community


Review posted July 28, 2020


Interesting read

Jaki Oroian

Review posted July 28, 2020


Great book thank you


Review posted July 27, 2020


Excellent understanding and tools to promote resilience skills in children and adolescents. Easy-to-understand examples from real life and applications for parents, teachers, and clinicians.


Review posted July 23, 2020


A great fact about this book is it can reach a wide spectrum of individuals. No need to be a parent to glean excellent tools for life. A teacher, socail worker, youth pastor, a neighbor, any of these roles could benefit from reading this book. I have an eleven and seventeen year-old and am a single mother. Challenges arise all the time with a preteen and a teenager in the home, yet this book has offered some really great incite on fresh ideas on how to move forward in healthier ways for both me as a parent and for my children.


Review posted July 20, 2020


I really enjoyed this book. The first thing that caught my eye was that it was written by a pediatrician and is supported by the American Academy of Pediatrics. I enjoyed it more and more as I read it because I felt that it gives hope in being able to teach resilience in children and talks about a lot of different factors that impact resilience. But I also really appreciated that it gives step-by-step instructions on how to help change behavior but also how to maintain that learned resilience. As a marriage and family therapist, I also really valued that this book talks about self care not being selfish! And how parents are role models for modeling how to manage situations and in order to support their own resilience, they have to take care of themselves! I talk about these concepts in my own practice and I really enjoyed reading this book as I learned things that I want to add to my work with children and families.

Diane Pancake

Review posted July 16, 2020


The book is easy to read and offers many suggestions on how to help children, teenagers build their Resilience. I also liked the tips for parents and teachers to put into their "tool box" and use to help the children and teenagers in our lives. It also offers videos to watch. I think it also made me think on how to improve my life and in this way help others as well. I would recommend this book to anyone that has children or teenagers in their life.


Review posted July 9, 2020


I think this is a really good book to have on your bookshelf. It has some good advice for young children, but I feel this book is mostly targeted towards teen/preteen issues. It's something you can refer to as the years go by, but I would still supplement it with other age-specific books, because it doesn't go in depth on parenting young children.


Review posted July 1, 2020


Great advice. We MUST create resilient adults to ensure our future!


Review posted June 30, 2020


Dr. Ginsburg does what most author's strive to do. He translates a critical and complex concept into everyday language that is both informative and accessible. Building resilience in children and Teens is a must read for parents and practitioners who care about future generations.


Review posted June 26, 2020


This book is layout great. It is clear and to the point. I really appreciate how the author walks you through the steps and gives you real world examples for application.


Review posted June 10, 2020


Excellent! Building resilience in kids is utterly important, especially given our current state off affairs in today’s world. Coupled with children who are at risk and who have experienced trauma, thus was a great read and a fabulous resource!!


Review posted June 2, 2020


With having a teen my self, it was good insight into allowing them to grow. Giving good strategies and research to help me help my child thrive and a achieve happiness and I enjoy the online research and I think it will help teach also are younger children.


Review posted May 21, 2020


Incredibly helpful book both in my personal life as a parent and my professional work with JJC involved youth.


Review posted May 19, 2020


A wonderful resource to a trauma informed library.


Review posted May 15, 2020


Great information. Dr. Kenneth R. Ginsberg makes things clear and simple. Also a great speaker if you ever get the chance to hear him

Lacey Henneke

Review posted May 14, 2020


This book was a great help for me during the completion of my MSW.


Review posted May 12, 2020


Great book about helping develop young people. If you work with youth, read this book!

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Review posted April 30, 2020


I found this book an "easy to read"...


Review posted April 22, 2020


This was an amazing book!!! I have 3 boys, ages 27,22and 9 so the teen years going into wings was the enticer of this book.


Review posted April 20, 2020


My favorite section was Part 5 on Control. Especially chapter 33, it was a very good reminder that kids need both freedom and boundaries to grow, mature and learn to make good/safe decisions. The bonus piece is that is also improves our communication with youth and diminishes triangulation.


Review posted April 16, 2020


This book was exactly what I needed. My 13 year old has juvenile polyarticular rheumatoid arthritis and after all the stress and trauma of what she has gone through she has really needed my help in fostering resilience. This book gave me some great insight and ideas on how to communicate, discipline and love my daughter and all my children even through the hard stuff.


Review posted March 30, 2020


I love this book it was easy to read and had examples that just about anyone can relate to. I would recommend this book to anyone with teens. Great book.


Review posted February 29, 2020


This book gives a lot of great ideas. Good for anyone with teens.

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Review posted February 27, 2020


An excellent reference book with ideas for clinicians working with teens. I will keep this one on my shelf.


Review posted February 17, 2020


Decent read. A lot of personal stories so it seems less data research based. There are some good nuggets of information.


Review posted February 15, 2020


Absolutely LOVE this book! The author uses conversational English, a gift rarely seen. His examples are ones anyone is going through currently. He offers possibilities that are easy to use and follow. He explains the 'why' behind our thoughts, actions, and reactions. The videos and checklists supplement the reading to a 't'.


Review posted January 27, 2020


This book is fantastic. It gives great strategies for raising children. I do wish it was more focused on young children but it's helpful anyway. I would recommend this book to anyone with kids or going into the childcare profession.


Review posted January 24, 2020


Dr. Kenneth Ginsburg's book "Building Resilience in Children and Teens: Giving Kids Roots and Wings" is a must-read for any educator passionate about enhancing the lives of their students. Dr. Ginsburg presents tangible ways to: * bolster students' self-esteem * build confidence in students * learn the art of truly listening to students * teach grit * be compassionate . . . and the list goes on. This book serves as an excellent reminder that we, as educators, have the capacity to truly influence each student's life in a healthy, positive way, while also teaching them the skills they need to be successful both at school and in the world.


Review posted January 23, 2020


This book was an excellent read. I highly recommend diving in and deep, then reflecting how you feel paragraph to paragraph. Consider thinking about your own childhood and how to incorporate it with those you serve.

Toby Abraham-Rhine

Review posted January 18, 2020


Absolute must read for every parent, teacher, counselor, director or anyone who works with children. Avoid the pitfalls of child rearing and interactions that have created a generation of potential entitlement and fear of failure in many children. For such a small publication, it packs a punch and does not just present doom and gloom theories, but instead gives every adult the practical tools needed to help a child build resilience.


Review posted January 9, 2020


This book had been so essential in my role as a family educator. Very insightful!!

Melissa Mesa

Review posted January 9, 2020


Enjoyed reading this book as a parent and wished I would have read it when my oldest was a younger. Great advice on ways to communicate with children, keeping them safe while also fostering confidence in your child.


Review posted January 2, 2020


It was well written and an easy read. Good information. The only issue I had was that I was not able to access the video's on the website.


Review posted December 31, 2019


Interesting perspective reading as a new parent. Great things to bring more awareness for parenting.


Review posted December 18, 2019


This book was extremely helpful for me as I study the ACE's. Its super friendly to thumb through from section to section as needed. It has so much good content in it. I valued the authors point of view as well. This book helped me as a mother and a teacher.


Review posted December 5, 2019


This is a great resource for anyone with children and/or teens- but also anyone who works with children and teens. It offers great perspective on how to help them form into outstanding, RESILIENT young humans. Recommend!


Review posted December 2, 2019


It was an amazing book, lent it out to a volunteer through my program!


Review posted November 11, 2019


Loved it! So insightful and helpful to my work with students dealing with the negative impacts of childhood trauma.


Review posted November 11, 2019


Great book! Learn to help others "bounce back" and share building coping skills.

Hilary Barfield

Review posted November 5, 2019


Amazing book great information

Emiliya King

Review posted November 4, 2019


My niece loves this book!


Review posted November 1, 2019


Valuable book on building resilience in children and teens. Easy read w/ tons of tangible ideas to implement. Covers fundamental topics like how to effectively communicate and create healthy boundaries, and more current issues like media (screen time) smarts. I'm excited to use some of the role plays w/ the students I support as an educator, as well as my daughter as she develops.


Review posted October 25, 2019


Excellent read. Use it for work!


Review posted October 20, 2019


Building Resilience in children and teens information will help greatly at school with my students.


Review posted October 17, 2019


I am deeply enjoying this well-organized and thoughtful amalgamation of best practices. It is easy to read, approachable and sensible, but also inspiring and thought provoking. There are some absolute gems and also a lot of common sense put into clear context, which serves as a good reminder. Highly recommended.


Review posted October 16, 2019


This book provides a good review of, not only what resilience is, but how to promote it within today's youth. I appreciate that the book goes back to early infancy and how this changes to promote people to be more resilient. This grows throughout the entire book. From handling it through various strategies and other coping mechanisms, including taking care of yourself.


Review posted October 11, 2019


This books is just an overall amazing for just about everyone; parents, teachers, social workers, basically anyone who is interacting with children at all. It has a really good balance of teaching children how to gain self confidence while also keeping them safe. It seems like a lot of common sense and easy concepts but everything in this book is SO useful and it has a lot of topics that are often completely overlooked when teaching children.


Review posted October 10, 2019


This book is a great resource! I would recommend it to any one working directly or indirectly with children.

Janice I Woody

Review posted October 5, 2019


Enjoyed learning how to support my son and things I can do as a parent


Review posted September 24, 2019


This book is amazing. this book has really helped me to understand how to help with peer pressure, academic pressure, family issues and much more.


Review posted September 20, 2019


I'm really getting good information about what it takes on my part to help give children the tools for building the resilience mindset going forward in life!


Review posted September 9, 2019


This book is a must read for anyone who works with children especially students at the elementary level because as educators we are able give the students the support and tools they need to be successful in life. Of course there will be bumps on the road but we have to at least try. This book gives you an insight on how to navigate those obstacles and allows us to try and understand the hardships that others go through.


Review posted August 29, 2019


This books is titled "Building Resilience in Children and Teens," but the primary focus is on adolescence rather than toddlers and elementary aged children. Also, I found myself sometimes overwhlemed with the amount of information and not sure how exactly to apply it. While the later part on coping was helpful, you have to wade through 200 pages of other information first.


Review posted August 12, 2019


This book was practical and an captivating read.


Review posted August 2, 2019


Amazing resource


Review posted August 1, 2019


A good book for parents, professionals and others who care about young people. The 7 C's framework is easily accessible and the resources (especially videos) are great for quick learning. Lots of easily digestible segments for specific circumstances (i.e. Connection in Military Families).


Review posted July 30, 2019


This book is filled with ideas for building resilience in kids. So many ideas are small and nuanced. Slight ways we can shift our language, time, or interactions with kids. It’s not a hard read, but also not quick due to all the content.


Review posted July 16, 2019


Every parent and teacher should read this book. It gives insight into the world of students who need to fly. The author shared best practices to help every community.

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Review posted June 20, 2019


I enjoyed this book. It brought much awareness on Resiliency and childhood trauma.

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Review posted June 19, 2019


This book is empowering for the reader in helping young people to reframe their adverse experiences into sources of growth and strength.

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Review posted June 12, 2019


Great "how to" advice. A must read for anyone in a helping profession.

Frontier CASA

Review posted June 6, 2019


I was looking for a book on resilience to share with our Court Appointed Special Advocates and I found it. This is one of the best I have read. I have also recommended it to two parents for their use.


Review posted May 23, 2019


I enjoyed the age spectrum in this book and specifically appreciated that the author tackled problems congruent with our age of technology and how this has impacted our children. It was help as a parent who has kids who range in ages from 4 to 17.


Review posted May 18, 2019


Excellent book for anyone with kids, teaching kids, or working with kids in any way. This book has very useful, easy to use examples. Highly recommend!


Review posted May 15, 2019


This book is packed with information, strategies, and insights that every parent or adult who works with children should know. Each chapter and section gets down to the core of how to help children grow socially and emotionally. The book is a toolbox that should be revisited often.

Patricia Jarrett

Review posted May 8, 2019


This is an excellent book! Is helping me personally and professionally.


Review posted May 3, 2019


I loved this book, it has helped out so much thank you.


Review posted April 30, 2019


This book is a must have for any parent wishing for a guidebook to happy kids in today's chaotic world. Today's youth are faced with many challenges that are new to their generation and this helps navigate through child-rearing to raise successful adults.


Review posted April 19, 2019


Useful and good information. Parts are common sense, parts are dry, but worth reading.


Review posted April 15, 2019


Very down to earth, science based recommendations on how to raise kids with respect and authenticity. As an avid reader in this genre I didn't see anything outstanding and new, rather a well-researched summary of many solid ideas. I love that there are plentiful references for scientific studies and published journal articles backing up the theories presented in the book. A wonderful read, highly recommend.


Review posted April 15, 2019


The book is very well set up, with picture breakdowns, clear sections, and situations to understand what the section is talking about at points. Very well written.


Review posted April 14, 2019


This book was well written and I felt there was no judgement and full of practical information.

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Review posted April 7, 2019


This book is great for parents and caregivers. It's an easy read, full of plenty of useful information.


Review posted April 3, 2019


I teach in a school that serves four of the six poorest zip codes in the state and many of my students are dealing with situations that completely overwhelm them. I found much in "Building Resilience in Children and Teens: Giving Kids Roots and Wings" that fit in with ACES training and programs that my school has instituted to work with, support and work with our student population. It is overwhelming, especially when you don't have one of the most important needs to be successful, time. It takes time to build resilience and when one is dealing with a student population that has a large migratory population and/or absentee rate, it makes the work all the more difficult. I mention this because time is the commodity that is the hardest to carve out as a teacher. Juggling the needs of multiple students (high school) and the requirements of the job is the hardest to keep track of and maintaining forward momentum. I lead off with this because, it has been the hardest part of trying to implement with my students. There is a lot of positive and good information in this book, so much that it can seem overwhelming. You find yourself wondering where to start. What strategies will be the ones to start to build the foundation of resilience on. How to frame the strategies in a way that facilitates buy in by the students. I am happy that I read this work, it did answer some questions I had and it has helped me to fine tune and tweak some of the strategies that I have begun to use with my students with the most need.


Review posted March 30, 2019


Lots of helpful, insightful information. I’m passing the book along to my son & daughter in law. Their youngest is 13, and has had problems this year with bullying and anxiety issues. The chapter on confidence is definitely a place for them to start working together. I’m hoping that the entire family works through the book together.


Review posted March 18, 2019


A must read for parents and educators


Review posted March 18, 2019


This was a lovely book to read. I especially the section where it stated, "Young People Who Don't Live Up to THeir Potential Aren't Necessarily Lazy."


Review posted March 17, 2019


This book was a great resource for understanding the effects of stress on kids and for ideas to help children develop grit, residence and a positive self esteem!!


Review posted March 16, 2019


Approaches raising children with love and no games. Asks parents to strive to be adults (not always perfectly possible) and to help children, and teens, grow -- even when suffering from severe stress -- incrementally to be more responsible. There is much wisdom in the book but it might not be easily understood or clear to some given its slightly academic style. The use of stories helps, and the referral to videos available on-line helps as well. Part 7 deals with the role of communities in helping teens. I think this is why the Ford Institute Leadership Program engaged youth as young as 13, as part of an effort to help young people grow into adulthood.


Review posted March 13, 2019


Excellent resource. A must read for any parent, educator, coach or anyone working with children.


Review posted March 13, 2019


Great overview and insights to resilience. More family oriented, but can be related to education/classroom. Loved the 7 C's!


Review posted March 12, 2019


I like the layout of the book. Really helpful book for parenting.


Review posted March 11, 2019


This book was very well written and easily one of the better resilience building for children and teens. I found the online videos that were included with this book a bonus.


Review posted March 1, 2019


Solid book.


Review posted February 20, 2019


THIS IS A MUST READ! I ordered this book out of curiosity and ended up reading this in one night. This book contains information you don't particularly think about on a day to day basis, but really need to take a step back and reevaluate. A must read for all parents!


Review posted February 15, 2019


This book is a great resource for anyone who has children or works with them. I am using the book to help me understand what else can be done for youth in foster care. At the end of the book, the author offers a list of questions we can use to help develop the 7 C's in youth: Competence, Confidence, Connection, Character, Contribution, Coping and Control. It is helping me understand how to engage in relationships that build these assets in not only the children I serve, but my own grandchildren. After I finish using the book for research, I'm giving it to my daughter!