Building Resilience in Children and Teens

Giving Kids Roots and Wings

This book, from a bestselling author and pediatrician, offers coping strategies to help children and teens deal with stress due to academic pressure, high achievement standards, media messages, peer pressure and family tension. Recommendations guide parents to help kids (18 months to 18 years) build competence, confidence, connection, character, contribution, coping and control — all needed to bounce back from life's challenges.

330 pages. ©2014.
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Reader Reviews for this Book


Review posted May 18, 2019


Excellent book for anyone with kids, teaching kids, or working with kids in any way. This book has very useful, easy to use examples. Highly recommend!


Review posted May 15, 2019


This book is packed with information, strategies, and insights that every parent or adult who works with children should know. Each chapter and section gets down to the core of how to help children grow socially and emotionally. The book is a toolbox that should be revisited often.

Patricia Jarrett

Review posted May 8, 2019


This is an excellent book! Is helping me personally and professionally.


Review posted May 3, 2019


I loved this book, it has helped out so much thank you.


Review posted April 30, 2019


This book is a must have for any parent wishing for a guidebook to happy kids in today's chaotic world. Today's youth are faced with many challenges that are new to their generation and this helps navigate through child-rearing to raise successful adults.


Review posted April 19, 2019


Useful and good information. Parts are common sense, parts are dry, but worth reading.


Review posted April 15, 2019


Very down to earth, science based recommendations on how to raise kids with respect and authenticity. As an avid reader in this genre I didn't see anything outstanding and new, rather a well-researched summary of many solid ideas. I love that there are plentiful references for scientific studies and published journal articles backing up the theories presented in the book. A wonderful read, highly recommend.


Review posted April 15, 2019


The book is very well set up, with picture breakdowns, clear sections, and situations to understand what the section is talking about at points. Very well written.


Review posted April 14, 2019


This book was well written and I felt there was no judgement and full of practical information.

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Review posted April 7, 2019


This book is great for parents and caregivers. It's an easy read, full of plenty of useful information.


Review posted April 3, 2019


I teach in a school that serves four of the six poorest zip codes in the state and many of my students are dealing with situations that completely overwhelm them. I found much in "Building Resilience in Children and Teens: Giving Kids Roots and Wings" that fit in with ACES training and programs that my school has instituted to work with, support and work with our student population. It is overwhelming, especially when you don't have one of the most important needs to be successful, time. It takes time to build resilience and when one is dealing with a student population that has a large migratory population and/or absentee rate, it makes the work all the more difficult. I mention this because time is the commodity that is the hardest to carve out as a teacher. Juggling the needs of multiple students (high school) and the requirements of the job is the hardest to keep track of and maintaining forward momentum. I lead off with this because, it has been the hardest part of trying to implement with my students. There is a lot of positive and good information in this book, so much that it can seem overwhelming. You find yourself wondering where to start. What strategies will be the ones to start to build the foundation of resilience on. How to frame the strategies in a way that facilitates buy in by the students. I am happy that I read this work, it did answer some questions I had and it has helped me to fine tune and tweak some of the strategies that I have begun to use with my students with the most need.


Review posted March 30, 2019


Lots of helpful, insightful information. I’m passing the book along to my son & daughter in law. Their youngest is 13, and has had problems this year with bullying and anxiety issues. The chapter on confidence is definitely a place for them to start working together. I’m hoping that the entire family works through the book together.


Review posted March 18, 2019


A must read for parents and educators


Review posted March 18, 2019


This was a lovely book to read. I especially the section where it stated, "Young People Who Don't Live Up to THeir Potential Aren't Necessarily Lazy."


Review posted March 17, 2019


This book was a great resource for understanding the effects of stress on kids and for ideas to help children develop grit, residence and a positive self esteem!!


Review posted March 16, 2019


Approaches raising children with love and no games. Asks parents to strive to be adults (not always perfectly possible) and to help children, and teens, grow -- even when suffering from severe stress -- incrementally to be more responsible. There is much wisdom in the book but it might not be easily understood or clear to some given its slightly academic style. The use of stories helps, and the referral to videos available on-line helps as well. Part 7 deals with the role of communities in helping teens. I think this is why the Ford Institute Leadership Program engaged youth as young as 13, as part of an effort to help young people grow into adulthood.


Review posted March 13, 2019


Excellent resource. A must read for any parent, educator, coach or anyone working with children.


Review posted March 13, 2019


Great overview and insights to resilience. More family oriented, but can be related to education/classroom. Loved the 7 C's!


Review posted March 12, 2019


I like the layout of the book. Really helpful book for parenting.


Review posted March 11, 2019


This book was very well written and easily one of the better resilience building for children and teens. I found the online videos that were included with this book a bonus.


Review posted March 1, 2019


Solid book.


Review posted February 20, 2019


THIS IS A MUST READ! I ordered this book out of curiosity and ended up reading this in one night. This book contains information you don't particularly think about on a day to day basis, but really need to take a step back and reevaluate. A must read for all parents!


Review posted February 15, 2019


This book is a great resource for anyone who has children or works with them. I am using the book to help me understand what else can be done for youth in foster care. At the end of the book, the author offers a list of questions we can use to help develop the 7 C's in youth: Competence, Confidence, Connection, Character, Contribution, Coping and Control. It is helping me understand how to engage in relationships that build these assets in not only the children I serve, but my own grandchildren. After I finish using the book for research, I'm giving it to my daughter!