Creating Compassionate Kids

Essential Conversations to Have with Young Children

Selected as a “Favorite Book for Parents in 2019” by Greater Good magazine, this book provides parents with a framework for using conversations that help their children become caring people. Each chapter focuses on a characteristic — such as compassion, self-awareness, and resilience — and provides parents with age-appropriate conversations that can help shape their children’s understanding of the world. 
270 pages. ©2019.
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Reader Reviews for this Book


Review posted September 19, 2020


Measurably worthwhile book! Examples of conversations along with reasonings assist folks in having their own conversations. Plus, quite a few subjects were covered.


Review posted September 11, 2020


Having this conversation with kids is always important and even more so during the current times. Compassion, understanding and empathy need to be part of every kitchen dinner table. We must ensure that kindness prevails and our next generation of kids passes that along to their children. This is an important topic!


Review posted September 7, 2020


I enjoyed this book. It gave me good insite on how to approach some conversations with my students.


Review posted August 25, 2020


such a good book. lots of great tips and information about raising kids with compassion and providing empathy


Review posted August 22, 2020


I thought this book was great, and wish I would have known about it when my kids where even younger! The multiple examples of conversations given on each topic were very helpful. Even on topics I had already discussed with my daughter, I felt the way they were explained in the book gave me more and better ways to discuss them further. The book covered a variety of different topics to discuss, how to discuss them, and even gave titles of books to read with your children, as well as examples of activities to do with your children. It was very well written and I definitely recommend it to others!


Review posted August 12, 2020


I love the philosophy behind this book. Tominey really shines light on how important it is for parents to have meaningful conversations with their children. The sooner you start the better, but it's never too late! Our kids just need us to be real with them.


Review posted July 31, 2020


Really great informational book. Though I may not have kids of my own, I will definitely be using this book to help me in conversations with my younger cousins and nephews. So far has been a great tool!


Review posted July 16, 2020


Shauna Tominey explains clearly how to communicate with children so they will understand, learn, and become able to listen before commenting, which helps them gain social skills that are acceptable with others. When adults/teachers use the techniques offered their lives become more enjoyable and productive too! The book supports a win/win solution if the techniques are used appropriately!


Review posted July 10, 2020


I enjoyed this book and what an important topic to discuss. We can model compassionate behavior and talk with children about what compassion is in order to best prepare them for the transition to becoming a compassionate adult.


Review posted July 8, 2020


I loved the tone and concrete examples of important conversations to have with children. It helped to reinforce that these difficult topics shouldn't just be a one-time 'talk' but discussed all throughout a child's life and as opportunities for learning and teaching arise. Particularly in this challenging time right now, a book like this is so helpful and important.

onalee Mansor

Review posted June 24, 2020


Creating Compassionate Kids, Essential Conversations to Have with Young Children, covers the "tough" questions children ask with logical responses. The dialogs are real and I will use them with parents in my parenting class. Excellent book!

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Review posted May 21, 2020


This book gave me great insight into what is happening in my children's life right now.


Review posted April 27, 2020


Love this book. Lots of good points and from someone who had a really hard past it showed me some good ways to have the important conversations.


Review posted April 13, 2020


Very informative and educational


Review posted April 3, 2020


From the moment I heard the author speak at a training I knew I had to get a copy of her book. I work with ages 5-12 and it has a bunch of great ways to talk to kids ranging from sexuality, special needs and divorce. A must read for parents and childcare workers


Review posted March 31, 2020


This is a fantastic book. It had a lot of really good ideas for helping kids learn compassion for others


Review posted March 27, 2020


Love this one. A must have for any parent or educator’s collection.