I Love You Rituals


This book delivers more than 70 delightful rhymes and games for parents, teachers and caregivers to do with children that support healthy relationships and development. The games are geared for infants through age eight. The rituals are designed to: prime a child's brain for learning; enhance attention, cooperation, and self-esteem; help children cope with change; help busy families stay close; and affirm the parent-child bond that insulates children from trauma.


208 pages. ©2000.
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Reader Reviews for this Book

Bre Rose

Review posted May 5, 2019

5

Beck Bailey has such a wonderful way of creating loving, caring interactions in her book, "I Love You Rituals." My kids at school love the nursery rhymes and finger plays. We have been practicing them together for a couple of months now and they are starting to receive them to each other. Our classroom has really enjoyed this book and we as teachers have noticed a social-emotional growth among the children as well. I would highly recommend this book to any family or caretaker.

holtman

Review posted April 30, 2019

3

Some of the ideas are good but definitely geared for toddlers

ddieter06

Review posted April 30, 2019

5

So great! I use it with parents all the time.

BetsyBell

Review posted April 29, 2019

5

This is a fantastic book that incorporates simple routines into daily life. The routines are sweet and help facilitate healthy relationships and bonding. I work in Early Intervention and have incorporated a few of these routines into my weekly sessions with my client kiddos. They have loved the songs!

tderichsweiler

Review posted April 23, 2019

5

This book (I havent finished it) seems to be in line with all of my infant-toddler trauma training. I plan to use it with the at-risk families I service to build their bonding and attachment to each other, and with my nephew--because I love him. Its a great reminder when you are desperately trying to recall childhood nursery games and cant think of any!

HeatherAho

Review posted April 21, 2019

3

It is a great book to use if you plan on implementing conscious discipline. The songs are more suited to younger elementary kids or kids that haven't entered school yet.

KarmaCJ

Review posted April 19, 2019

5

This book is going to be great for use in the Early Childhood Special Education classrooms I support. There are lots of fun poems and finger plays with clear directions for the teacher (or parent). The activities are designed to help the child and adult connect by making eye contact, sharing gentle touch, being playful and laughing together. For all of the Conscious Discipline fans who work with young children, this is a great resource.

smulroy

Review posted April 19, 2019

5

This book is a blessing to our family. Easy to read, fun ideas you can incorporate immediately

toniwallisa

Review posted April 18, 2019

4

The book I Love You Rituals was not only an interesting read, but something I am excited to implement with my infant at home. The insight into the benefits of touch and rituals throughout the book, not only make it something fun to implement but something with a purpose. I enjoyed the discussions of how to implement these learning and fun rituals with the examples. Some of the routines are ones I will definitely implement, others I might adapt. I feel that the ones that focus on altering nursery rhymes will be ones I may not focus on but use the songs that go along with the rhymes. I feel that the emphasis on human touch and the development of children is a fascinating topic and this book does a great job in describing the concept without being too “scientific.” Because of this, the book does not leave the reader confused and instead does a good job in keeping the interest of the reader while keeping the book relevant to the reader as well. This book is good at providing information regarding the development of children and their brains as it pertains to love and human touch.

rosemignano

Review posted April 18, 2019

5

As a pre-service teacher, I was so happy to find this book was available. There are so many fantastic resources for teachers (and parents) of little ones. I recommend this book to all parents and educators. Thank you, FFF!

Mindap1970

Review posted April 15, 2019

5

Love the different ideas this book gives me to bond with my granddaughter

Tanyasan

Review posted April 11, 2019

5

I am a behavior consultant, and this book is a wonderful resource for the parents of young children I work with. I wish I'd had it when my kids were little!

krystlemoxley

Review posted April 4, 2019

5

I really enjoyed this book and so did my four and eight year old. There were many things to do and a variety of quick activities and longer ones to choose from. I would recommend this!

meanderd

Review posted April 2, 2019

5

Awesome book! It provides positive nursery rhymes vs. the old ones that are way outdated. And positive parenting strategies. Thank you sooo much!

heidiparrett

Review posted April 1, 2019

4

As a future educator and current nanny I get the opportunity to work and engage with kids a lot! This book gave great practical ideas and insight into creating those meaningful relationships that are the foundation to successful learning.

Jadeaz1

Review posted April 1, 2019

4

Very informative and easy to read.

Clairedavis

Review posted March 31, 2019

5

I love this book! The authors clearly understand that it’s those special, little things that create strange parent-child attachment. We have had great discussions as a team reflecting on meaningful memories from our own childhoods, and those we created with our children.

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Review posted March 23, 2019

4

I Love You Rituals is a positive, sweet, easy-to-use manual of games and nursery rhymes to use with young children to increase joy and attachment. The book states that it is recommended for caregivers for children from infancy to age eight, but it seems to me to be most appropriate for early childhood, up to age 4 or 5. I wish I had had a book like this when my own children were babies and I was exhausted and needing support in staying present and positive with them. I think that this book would be especially helpful for caregivers of hard-to-soothe children or children who have been through trauma. I would also recommend it to parents who did not have good attachment figures in their own childhood, and may be looking for support in learning how to play and be silly with their own kids. If you naturally know how to be goofy and loving and play peek-a-boo or itsy-bitsy-spider, then this book will have less to offer to you. I plan to pass this book along to a friend who is a preschool teacher, for her to share with families. I think the ideas for rituals of saying hello and good-bye would be especially useful for kids going to daycare or preschool for the first time.

Tjmarston

Review posted March 22, 2019

5

This book includes so many tools to connect with your children and fully understand where they are coming from. There is no true guide book for parenting and every style is different, but if you feel like you want to give more confidence and effort into the parent-child relationship this is a very helpful read.

mdowell

Review posted March 20, 2019

5

This book for me is an eye opener to how our children learn from the way we touch, communicate, and interact with them. I enjoyed this book a lot, it introduced ways for me to have positive rituals and fun games to help children succeed in life. It also made me think differently about the way we have communicated in the past and what those teachings have lead to in our lives today.

Nikkid1993

Review posted March 17, 2019

5

This book is phenomenal. Creating the time to do a few excersizes from this boom has increased mine and my childs bond. It has made us more aware of each other during our day to day routine and decreased stress during rough moments.

pkramer16

Review posted March 13, 2019

4

I thought that this book had some great ideas, though some seemed unrealistic in real, day to day life.

Tsecrest

Review posted March 8, 2019

5

Oh my gosh this book is amazing. I love all the little songs. They are fun to teach my Class. A must read.

KBurnham

Review posted March 2, 2019

5

This was a great book! So many wonderful ideas to use in teaching children!

Tweety123

Review posted March 1, 2019

5

I LOVE this book! I work with preschoolers and their families. I recommend this book to many of my parents. It is easy for anyone to understand and has great ideas to help parents connect with their children on a deeper emotional level. Children love songs and fingerplays. If the songs are about them even better. I think this book should be given to every newborn's family and also to foster families to encourage connections in a world that is often turned upside down for foster children.

imagine_that

Review posted February 25, 2019

5

This is a great addition to our library on fostering positive social-emotional development. We love all of Becky Bailey's work, and this book is best for being able to share her ideas with parents. Beyond the sweet rhymes and games suggested (which are great for parents OR teachers to use), there is some wonderful information about working towards a positively attached relationship between parents and children. We woud recommend this book to anyone who has a child in their lives.

rainynavarro

Review posted February 21, 2019

5

I could not put this book down! "I Love You Rituals" states on the front that it is for parents and children, but as an educator I found this book extremely useful. As a busy teacher and student, I often worry about bonding with all 19 of my students . I feel like there just aren't enough hours in the day and that some students demand more attention than others. With "I Love You Rituals", solutions and suggestions are offered to help ensure that every opportunity to connect with your child (or students) is meaningful and beneficial. A great read for those who want to go above and beyond with their child but don't where to start!

slcoffin

Review posted February 20, 2019

4

I really liked this book. I nanny my 4 yr old granddaughter, but it has been 40 years since I raised my children. Some things I rememered from doing with my children, but this book had so many new and fun ideas. I thoroughly enjoyed this book and am very pleased with it. Thank you Ford Foundation for this program.

cheyennelacanlale

Review posted February 15, 2019

5

This book brought my daughter and I closer than ever! The games in here are simple, $0 money involved, and so much fun. I have shared this book now with multiple moms. I am the leader of 12 moms at my job, this book went a long way :)

Aradavis

Review posted February 5, 2019

4

Very good book to read as a family. My son like the poems, especially.

patricia standley

Review posted February 5, 2019

5

This is a wonderful book and i will be using it a lot in my classroom. I love it.

vtitus

Review posted January 31, 2019

5

I loved this book! I feel like it should be a must read for everyone. It has good insight to why we are the way we are, but it also has great rituals to do with your children to make connections. Th connections that we make and how we speak and interact with our children is what is going to shape them into the people they will become. I felt like this book is going to help me make my child a better person that can make connections and self regulate.

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Review posted January 29, 2019

3

The book was more of an update on familiar nursery rhymes and less about innovative ways to interact with children. Although is says up to age 8, it really focuses on very young children.

Ashlynn Hale

Review posted January 22, 2019

4

I have a 8 month old baby so the sections I found very useful were the positive nursery rhymes and cuddling and snuggling games. We really enjoyed the row row your boat snuggle game. The nursery rhymes are so much better then what I grew up with. They’re a lot more positive and can show my baby love and nurturing and not so much negativity. I can’t wait to use more of the activities as gets older as well as taking into account the discipline tips for parents.

Shannonmullins

Review posted January 21, 2019

5

This is a great resource for ways to have more connection with young children, through rhymes and songs. As a teacher of older children, I don't find it helpful for the classroom. However, I have used it with my niece and nephew, and they love them.

Debra Conners

Review posted January 17, 2019

4

My grandson loves the games from the book. It's ideas are inspiring in spending time with him.

Fbrooks

Review posted January 16, 2019

5

I really enjoyed reading this book. It is filled with different ways to connect and strengthen your relationship with your child or students. I also liked the positive nursery rhymes and games!

Colene.madd17

Review posted January 13, 2019

3

Absolutely loved it ! It helped me connect with my daughter on a new level!

mandy.stanley

Review posted January 9, 2019

5

Fantastic! Excellent read for any parent

rwevans

Review posted January 3, 2019

4

This is a good book. The first couple chapters detail the philosophy behind the importance of meaningful connection rituals and the rest of the book gives a variety of examples of effective rituals. Recommended for all parents.

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Review posted December 20, 2018

4

Enjoying this book. The first chapters explain the importance of these “I Love You Rituals” in a simple and clear way. Many of these activities remind me of Theraplay and other attachment based activities. What is more is that my 10 year old looked at it and brought up old rhymes we used to do. Yep we did them and cuddled later too.

youngsa

Review posted December 18, 2018

5

Wonderful book.

Diana Molina

Review posted December 18, 2018

4

Great book for educators in the social service field.

Camie

Review posted December 16, 2018

5

Loved this book!

Billie Williams

Review posted December 11, 2018

5

I enjoy this book and know that it will be a good reference to families who I support in parent child interactions. On a personal note, I have fond memories of th activities from my own childhood. Way more verses than I ever knew. Fun to reminisce!

Catherinehall

Review posted December 2, 2018

5

Many times the parents I work with do not know how to play with their children. This book teaches ways to interact with children that are easy and fun.

Hollykarbo

Review posted November 27, 2018

5

Love it. So many good things in it and know we will be referring to it for years. Great book.to strengthen my bond with my child even more

nonirose

Review posted November 22, 2018

5

This is a delightful book not just for my young grandchildren but even for my older ones. I love how the nursery rhymes are re written to be child friendly. We make it a point to bring the book out every day.

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Review posted November 19, 2018

5

What a great book to help enhance the relationship between parent and child. Great ideas on how to build in special moments that will become lasting memories.

shelley_york

Review posted November 13, 2018

5

I had attended the Conscious Discipline class about two months ago. I saw this book listed as one of the books that I could get, so I ordered it. I really love the book. So many wonderful songs and activities. Love using it for my classes

cookie529

Review posted November 10, 2018

3

This book book was not quite what I expected but had a few good ideas, I was able to pass it along to a friend and she is excited to read it.

JessicaMonday1

Review posted November 7, 2018

5

This book is so sweet and gives great ideas for bonding with your children.

AndreaBaugh

Review posted November 4, 2018

5

The information in this book is very helpful. Wither its dealing with little kids or teens. The suggestions of I love you rituals are practical and easy to umderstand.

JoJo13

Review posted November 1, 2018

5

Delightful!

Cheypoke

Review posted October 23, 2018

5

amazing book, i was introduced last year in a conscience discipline class and have wanted a copy. the rituals make a differnce in the preschoolers day. they even do the rituals to each other

jackiebanducci

Review posted October 19, 2018

5

"I Love You Rituals" is such a beautiful book, it has so many things to do with a child, games, songs... you name it. I found it a very educational piece and something I turn to for activities all the time.

Loverfrombeyond

Review posted October 10, 2018

5

This book is full of fum and positive nursery rhymes and games to grow with your children as they age. It is a great way to involve the family in fun and bonding!

tahutton

Review posted October 10, 2018

5

Very helpful as I work in the education district. These suggestions and rituals are beneficial to children and create a sense of trust. I recommend this book to every parent and educator working with young students in the pre-k through 1st grade.

Blofton

Review posted October 4, 2018

5

I found this book very helpful in my first grade classroom. The songs and games are easy for younger learners to master. They have helped foster a "school family" in the classroom. I have also noticed a growth in attention spans and cooperation.I would recommend this book for preschool- first grade.

Books4me

Review posted October 4, 2018

4

This is such a great book, full of positive messages, fun games and poems

ChalaHanlon

Review posted October 4, 2018

5

I love this book with its insight into how disconnected from one another people have become and the many ideas of ways we can work on building deeper connections with our children and in society in general.

Tasha Uber

Review posted September 26, 2018

5

It give simple ways to engage young children. It will be a good asset to use to help serve the children I teach.

achasestewart

Review posted September 20, 2018

4

Wonderful book full of ideas for engaging with your younger child.

KarissaMessner

Review posted September 13, 2018

5

I am about half way through this book and I can not believe how informative it is. Usually I have to force myself to read books like this, but this book is so easy to get wrapped into.

sforrest

Review posted September 11, 2018

3

This book is a good resource for parents or people working with younger children. I think there are some takeaways for working with older kids as well. Great activities and I really enjoyed what it said about incorporating healthy touch into interactions.

Ajvg

Review posted September 10, 2018

5

This book is great! Been using this book along with Conscious Discipline in my classroom.

Jen2sons

Review posted August 31, 2018

5

I practiced positive parenting with my children. This book shares a similar philosophy of creating bonds with your child while you teach them.

Bgilbert47

Review posted August 30, 2018

5

Great read for parents who want to raise compassionate children!

foxfireb1

Review posted July 31, 2018

4

It was an awesome book but it is really more for people with younger kids

lauracasey

Review posted July 30, 2018

5

After attending the Conscious Discipline Training, I have learned how powerful I Love You rituals can be when making connections with children. I am pleased with how the book is set up, as it not only provides the words to each ritual, but also explains in detail how to perform each ritual with variations. I am eager to begin using these rituals with my students for years to come.

carolann.r05

Review posted July 29, 2018

5

"I Love You Rituals" is an excellent and easy read. It is informative and useful for parents as well as teachers. The little rhymes are easy to follow and fun for kids and adults. It's wonderful to see the smiles on kids faces as they participate in the finger plays.

cbazzi

Review posted July 22, 2018

4

Excellent resource for esteem building activities to do with children of any age. I like the reworking of traditional rhymes and stories for more appropriate messaging.

dougsannes

Review posted July 18, 2018

4

Great book for ideas of building stong bonds with your child. Practical and fun.

shermaji

Review posted July 7, 2018

5

Most books about parenting tell you how you should be doing it but they don't give you any practical help or examples so nothing changes. This book spends the first half explaining how important bonding time and showing unconditional love to your child is and the second half is the rhymes to do in order to accomplish it. The rhymes and games seem so cheesy and stupid, but if you really get into them and let yourself be silly then children love them. I have a 1 1/2 year old and a 4 year old. Some of the rhymes are a little too advanced for the young one, but my 4 year old just lights up when I do them and I get real eye contact and attention from her. She's even willing to do them when she's been having a tantrum and she's angry at me.

Karin

Review posted June 27, 2018

5

This book was such a easy read and filled with so many simple and gentle suggestions on how to build these rituals into your day. I have passed the book on to a Mom of a toddler who has shared with me that she has already made some adjustments to her days to include some of these rituals. Thank you so much for this opportunity! :)

CindiJ

Review posted June 18, 2018

4

This book is a great resource for those with younger children in their lives looking for simple ways to strengthen connection and bonds. I ordered it with a grade school child in mind, but it would work best with toddlers. I am going to pass it along to others I believe would benefit from it.

lkwarmels

Review posted June 6, 2018

3

This book is delightful for strengthening the bond between parent and child. My two year old loves the positively-spun nursery rhymes. Right now a lot of the activities are me doing them and him watching, but I can see him joining along in the near future. I think this book is great for parents, caregivers, and child care providers of children from infancy through seven years old. The book is a lot of writing with no pictures depicting the body movements to go along with activities. This is why I gave it three stars.

Vmbunn

Review posted June 4, 2018

4

Great book! Lots of examples, and activities that we will be trying out.

Oshu21707

Review posted June 1, 2018

2

This book is not what I anticipated it would be. It could be helpful for a childcare worker to put into practice.

Kat

Review posted May 19, 2018

5

The author does a wonderful job creating a clear, parent-friendly rationale for establishing and maintaining rituals. There a multitude of example rituals and they are organized by themes. This is a great resource for parents and mental health professionals.

dcalaba

Review posted May 15, 2018

4

This is an extensive collection of positive Rhymes and fingerplays. It seems to be aimed at infant and preschool age children.

tracydugick

Review posted May 10, 2018

4

Great book with lots of great suggestions and information!

jessiebelter

Review posted May 7, 2018

4

I love that this book focuses on the emotional needs of the child and reconnecting with them to enjoy them again. The better the relationship, the more children will obey what we ask them to do. This is a great book in giving ideas for fun nursery rhymes, games that will just be fun to do and will build the emotional relationship between parent and child! Definitely a keeper and a great resource for divorce, new siblings, any major life change!

Drmiller634

Review posted May 7, 2018

5

This is a great book for my kids and me to bond better. Gives a ton of activities. Also great for my work with the kids there.

cday17

Review posted April 29, 2018

2

This book is geared for very small children of which I do not have anymore. It gives a lot of rhymes to do with your child.

michram32

Review posted April 17, 2018

5

Absolutely believe in Conscious Discipline! Great I love you rituals to strengthen relationships with children and build close connections.

joroian

Review posted April 17, 2018

4

Fun activities to work with kids and build their relationships with ones self and each other. I plan on using this for group activities.

Zabrina Davenport

Review posted March 26, 2018

5

Great book

ttmartin76

Review posted March 2, 2018

5

Great book with a lot of helpful hints as a parent and educator. Highly recommend anything from Dr. Bailey to help with children. Great tools.